Who More Accurately Describes the Relationship – Men or Women?

Here at "Making Love Simply Divine" we're always doing research, looking for people and information that we can share with you that will help you create and nurture highly successful, deeply satisfying relationships, in and out of the bedroom.

Every once in a while, we come across a fascinating piece of scientific research, such as one we found at ScienceDaily.com entitled, "Women More Perceptive Than Men In Describing Relationships," conducted by the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, 2008.

97 American couples between the ages of 18 and 46 participated in the written survey, designed to assess the sensitivities of couples in their relationships in three areas: Participants' wishes or desires towards their romantic partner; the perceived sense of how their partner will respond to these wishes, and their own responses to their partners' responses.

Here's how they did it: The couples were asked to answer the survey in two ways: First, how they evaluate their relationship with their partners on the basis of the questionnaire, and second, to rate how their partners would respond to the same issues that were posed in the questionnaire.

Here are just three intriguing results of the survey:

1. Couples - especially married couples - were more similar in their attitudes towards one another than they had thought, concerning their desires to avoid conflict, their perceptions of love, sensitivity and caring for each other.

Our Response:

Even more similar than they themselves thought themselves to be when they answered the questions independently! Hmmmm. Just imagine what would happen if people actually communicated their true feelings and perceptions accurately!

2. Here were some differences indicated by the survey results:

=> Men rated women as much more apprehensive about being abandoned than the women rated themselves.

=> Women rated men as much less apprehensive of being abandoned than the men rated themselves.

=> Women rated men as more independent than the men felt about themselves.

=> Men rated women as more fearful and less interested in sex than the women rated themselves.

Our Response:

You GOTTA love this! Classic stereotypes about men and women shattered by the couples' OWN responses, even though both the men and the women persisted in their own outdated, limited and limiting beliefs about the opposite sex - and specifically their partner. If your partner isn't getting what's true for you, what are you DOING to make sure s/he does?

3. Overall, women were much more accurate in describing the perceptions of their partners than were the men.

Our Response:

Well, well! What a surprise! Women being more in tune with men's thoughts and feelings than men are with women's thoughts and feelings. Imagine that!

How Can We Change This?

Men, be more observant, share your thoughts and feelings, and ask your partner to share with you what you are likely missing.

Women, do the same.

USE THE LINK BELOW to read the rest of the research summary at ScienceDaily.com.

www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/02/080213111055.htm

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